So how do we choose to make it work with so many different partners?
Its only a game - Let's remember is that tango is fun. Its about play. if we keep this in mind we can keep it light. The dance is very deep. We need a playful attitude to counter this profundity a little.
Be generous to your partner - A wise Lithuanian sage once said that relationships are about giving. The moment that a relationship becomes an avenue to demand something from someone, it is in trouble. Each tango is a mini-relationship. Give your partner the space to make mistakes, try things out - within reason. Advanced leaders, this also means trying to lead at your partner's level so that they can dance the best they can.
Communicate positively - If you feel that something is not working, try to explain how you think it would work better. Communicate concretely and work with your partner to achieve it. This is better than "picking faults". One thing that is not often spoken about openly is the hurt that people can feel when they receive negative feedback in the dance. Tango is close to our hearts. If something if bugging you, use the opporunity to practise your patience and communication skills.
Remember that social dancing is not a place to teach people, if you think they should improve. As much as possible, work with what they've got. Even if they only know the paso basico!
Be aware of your own ego - We all want to be fabulous tango dancers. The pursuit of great dancing can lead to negative ego dynamics such as competitiveness and ego defensiveness. Each tango is a partnership on more than one level. It is more than the steps that we are doing with another person. It is not an opportunity to show off or reject someone because they are not good enough for you. It is the opposite - an opportunity to transcend your own ego and be with another person in peace - whoever they are.